With March being women’s history month, this topic popped into my head since we focus on one gender this month.
One of the more stressful things during my pregnancies was finding out my babies’ gender. It shouldn’t be a stress but the pressure to find out the gender and do a reveal make it this way.
Would you really tell someone you’re sorry they are having either a boy or a girl. Why does it matter? Having a healthy child should be the only thing that matters.
I am very lucky I have boys and girls but the reason I’m lucky is that I have five healthy kids. Bryce was our tiebreaker and after having an amniocentesis and learning I had cancer I didn’t care at all about the gender. I understood how much the heath of the baby mattered more than anything else.
And even though I thought I would care if it was a boy or a girl with this final pregnancy, when the balloon popped and out came blue I was just happy. It truly didn’t matter. I literally was like oh nice we are having a boy.
This was the first time we did a balloon and cannon because we might as well have some fun with this gender reveal as we did it right before I began chemo and right after my cancer diagnosis. I needed something happy and fun.
And that’s exactly what this reveal was. With each child the relief was that the baby is healthy. We didn’t need some big party or production for the reveal just a simple cake for the girls and we did nothing with our first boys as we found out during the 20 week ultrasounds with them.
The crazy stunts and big deal people make over gender really needs to be toned down. As I learned more than ever with this pregnancy, a healthy baby is all that matters.
Is a family less perfect if they had a boy not a girl or vice versa? Is a family not complete because they had a boy instead of a girl or vice versa? The answer is no. A child makes a family perfect or complete. Not a boy or a girl.
Do I feel incredibly lucky to have children of both genders yes. But I feel even more lucky to have healthy children. Whether I have 5 girls or boys or 3 and 2 or 4 and 1, it doesn’t matter. My kids make me happy every day and that’s all that matters to me.
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